From a religious point of view, many people consider sexual intercourse taboo. However, the health and wellbeing is not secular contrary to some beliefs and should not have a stereotypical connotation attached.
Moreover, not all religious leaders shy away from the topic of religion and sexuality, but instead openly and directly address these issues.
This is an important issue for conversation and discussion, especially when it comes down to sensitizing young people in religious groups.
Sexual Health From A Religious Point of View
On a whole, secular people, it has been claimed to have more frequent sex than religious people, However, the differences only exist for unmarried people.
There aren’t very many differences in sexual frequency and if the truth be told, religious married people may have very frequent sex more than secular people.
When analyzing the data on unmarried people, the differences are most obvious for abstaining from sex Non-religious unmarried people are more likely to abstain entirely.
For non-religious people they may engage in intermediate levels of activity, once or twice per month. However, that cannot be said for religious married people.
It is observed and suggested that the stereotypical representation between secular and religious approaches poses great conflicts with sexual well-being.
When addressing sexuality it appears to be a complex and sensitive issue in terms of religious and secular contexts.
It was observed in many instances where teachers, parents, and religious groups took on the ‘we don’t talk about” attitude.
Acceptance of Homosexuality
In religious circles, homosexual discussions are not entertained. This is because it is viewed by many as a social problem. While some are of the belief that homosexuality is inborn and are more likely to have tolerant attitudes towards gay men and lesbians, some still believe it is a choice and have less tolerant attitude.
An LGBTI advocacy group representative lamented how he has not been able to have a conversation explaining how homosexuals have sex, despite trying a couple of times to explain.
He further stressed how speaking about sex invites such strong responses from religious students, that he is of the belief that it is not yet possible to discuss this.
In this and other cases, the option of religious groups not speaking about certain aspects of sexuality is preferred, not only because the issues are controversial, but also because it is believed sexuality is a private matter that needs a sensitive approach.
Religious leaders sometimes struggled with how to give information on sexuality to their young people, and adult populations.
Women, in particular, discuss sexual well-being regularly but it is considered a subject of conversation to be had in private as well as in religious gatherings and training.
Religious and Secular Approaches to Sex
From a secular perspective, it seemed like religions are violent and oppressive towards women and people with diverse orientations.
In a 2011 research it was shown that while homosexuality is discussed in terms of identity and tolerance in schools, the primary focus on sexuality education is based on heterosexual activities.
The religious context is based on heterosexual relationships within marriage and conversations on sexual well-being would only take place in a heterosexual environment.
Based on studies, it is believed that sexuality has become of the pivotal stages where boundaries between religion and secularity are imagined, highlighted, and discussed.
Religious and secular sex can be considered as something very personal while still subject to societal, religious, and cultural norms and regulations.
Oral Sex And Religion
Contrary to popular belief, when it comes to sexual intimacy and its various expressions, some religions believe that oral sex is not only mentioned but is celebrated in Song of Solomon and that the descriptions are embedded in Hebrew poetry.
However, others believe that oral sex is of permissible nature.
It is also believed in some religious quarters that oral sex should be reserved for marriage, while some Christians argue that only sexual intercourse must be saved for marriage.
A vast majority opined that the bible teaches that all sexual stimulation should be saved for after a man and woman are wedded.
The notion of procreation is argued and theorized that oral sex does not fit the bill. While there are differences of opinion, here are a few things that are said about sex:
- Sexual relation within marriage is holy and good
- Pleasure in sexual relations (like pleasure in eating or in the performance of other bodily functions) is not forbidden but rather assumed
- sexual pleasure is to be regulated by the key principle that one’s sexuality does not exist for himself or for his own pleasure but for his partner
- Sexual relations are to be regular and continuous
- The principle of mutual satisfaction means that each party is to provide the sexual enjoyment which is “due” his or her spouse whenever needed
- There is to be no sexual bargaining
- sexual relationships are equal and reciprocal
and I quote “All things are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be denominated by anything”.
This is a common verse used to decide optional matters in the Christian life.
Sexual Intercourse is sometimes labeled secular and is stereotyped by some religious beliefs as taboo. It should be noted that some leaders are caught up in the opinion that sex is private and should not be discussed openly.
There are not many differences in sexual frequency among unmarried and married people although it is widely believed that religious married people engage more often in sexual intercourse.
Sexuality appears to be complex and sensitive in terms of religious and secular beliefs.
Homosexuality is not readily accepted in religious circles, as the common belief is that it is a choice and is therefore less tolerant among religious leaders.
Oral sex should be reserved for marriage, while some Christians argue that only sexual intercourse must be saved for marriage.
Contrary to all beliefs, sexual intercourse is personal, and therefore one reserves the right to choose what he or she prefers as their preferred choice of sexuality.
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